Monday, August 23, 2010

Aug 23, 2010

Had a good couple of nights without the kids and no drama from Kelly. She had the kids at a family function on Sat an I guess it depressed her to be there by herself. Her sister is happily married (as we once were) with kids and her brother was there with his girlfriend and she was the only "single". She called me afterwards on my cell, but Brian and I were at the pub, so I didn't hear the call. And frankly, I don't think I would have answered anyway.

Yesterday, I came to the house at lunch get the kids for the afternoon and overnight. Kelly asked me to stay and talk. She was saying she wanted to know what I was planning to do at the end of next month when my 2 month rental is done. I said I hoped that she would want us to be living together again. She said she wanted that too but wasn't sure about her feelings for me.

I asked her to give me a specific about what she was thinking. She couldn't really but did say she was so unhappy with our lives in Winnipeg and was cross that I didn't listen to her enough about moving back. I didn't want to get into it and remind her of all the job interviews and exploratory trips I had taken to find a job here.

I did ask her if she was willing to attend counselling together. She said no, that she didn't think it would do any good to talk about it to anyone.

I'm getting a little sick of Kelly's unwillingness to DO ANYTHING to resolve this. She wants things to be different, to feel something different, but won't do anything to make it change.

This morning she called me at work to let me know the neighbour was up at 7 hammering and sawing. Like I'm supposed to do something about it. And of course I did. I called the by-law office to find out what he noise rules were. Then let her know.

At some point, she is going to have to start doing these things on her own.


scargosun said...

If she doesn't want to do therapy it means she doesn't want to work on your marriage, bottom line. She also probably does not want anyone telling her she can't have it her way all the time.

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

This is just crazy to me. Sounds like she wants her cake and wants to eat it to, sounds really unfair and one sided.

Sorry you have to go through this. :(